Since the ancient times many moralists, philosophers and other thinkers declared that one true friend is much more valuable than ownership of all the wealth and honour over/on the world. It seems to be true that a person who has never had a real and deep friendship with somebody can have only a pessimistic view of a human nature. Often the ultimate event in the human’s life is not either coincidence bringing wealth or great successes but a meeting of a real friend. A single rose can be my garden... a single friend, my world. (Leo Buscaglia)
As a symbol of friendship and its deepest keystone people used to give each other a wooden sheet broken into two parts. The parts of the sheet could be diverse and the broken fields contradictory, still they were very similar and meshed together. This internal similarity is what a heart feels before a mind can recognize the joy of meeting each other and spending time together.
The beginning of friendship is an effort of being yourself. Friendship cannot be scheduled or forced. The fox in The Little Prince says: “There’s no shop on the world where you could buy a friendship.” Friendship is gift offered by one person to another.
Freedom is a very important thing in friendship. To let your friend enough personal space to show his/her uniqueness and respect his/her uniqueness as a gift.
To desire to meet – to spend some time with a person you care about; to accept that person and all his/her wrong mistakes and bad habits; to respect his/her nature, abilities, mood, customs; not to criticize but help; to empathize – share your feelings, thoughts, to desire to make him/her happy; to be sincere and honest – these are the true values of friendship.
The keystone of a good friendship is the presence, the tolerance and the stamina.
Presence – for the sake of existence and development of the friendship it is necessary to be there for each other. A friend is a person who is always next to our side and helps us when we are in trouble or feel miserably. A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. (Walter Winchell)
Tolerance – to accept his/her capriciousness and deficiency is very important for prosperous friendship. A friend is one who knows us, but loves us anyway. (Fr. Jerome Cummings)
Stamina – in friendship there are times for joy and for sorrow; junctures of contiguity and of distance; mental wounds which need to be forgiven. Without stamina there is no future for friendship. Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow-ripening fruit. (Aristotle)
- thoughts collected, edited and translated by ME
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norry
1. 12.decembra 2008 22:14
moc pekny clanok, velmi precizne napisany
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